I still don’t understand how people can get confused with the whole registration of marriage (ROM) thingy with doing the traditional marriage. Or engagement, if you may. A lot of the younger people that i know kept thinking that ROM is just that - register, but you are still not married. Means you can hold hands and valentines day gifts together and still not considered married. I’m seriously dumbfounded.

To them, ROM is like engagement - if you like, then you stay on and get married the traditional way (tea ceremony and stuffs). If you don’t like, you can just let go. For them, ROM is nothing permanent. It’s just something that they do when they want to stay together, that’s what the younger ones (or should i call them younglings?) told me.

To them, you are married and screwed when you go thru the whole traditional marriage thingy. Without that, you are not yet married. Damn it. What they don’t know is, registration of marriage means you are legally married in the eye of law. And if you have kids then, legally, your kids will have the legitimate father and mother’s name in his/her birth certificate. It means that if you want to get separated, you’ll have to go thru the whole divorce thing.

And they further confused with engagement. The younglings thought that engagement equals ROM. Means something impermanent. What they don’t know is that those things are not the same at all. To them, ROM = engagement, and traditional marriage = real marriage (is there such a term?). I’m like, HELLO!!!!

Engagement =/= ROM

Traditional marriage is not technically and legally married in the eyes of law. You’ll only be recognised as married in your relative’s eyes.

Registration of marriage = married legally = you’re screwed

If this doesn’t clear it, I don’t know what will.

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